When you and your partner separate with young children, it is often agreed that the children will continue to occupy the family home. When one party did not have the children, they would move out of the family home to allow the other party to occupy the home and have the children. Normally the parties share the outgoings for the family home over this time – such including rent/mortgage, rates, insurance and others. This arrangement tends to work best when:

  1. The children are young, often under 5.
  2. This occurs on a week about basis or by calendar planned in advance.
  3. The parties are getting on well together despite the separation.
  4. It is on an interim basis, normally for 3 to 6 months.
  5. The parties are both working.

My view:

My experience with clients is that bird nesting can be good for young children and should be considered. There are many advantages of such a practice as an interim measure. If you have questions about separation and family property, please contact our office by email or phone (09) 309 4647. We’d be happy to answer them for you.


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