Q.  I have just separated from my wife. We have two children aged 11 and 12 who will stay with me two nights a week and live the rest of the time with my wife. She has given me a detailed list of expenses for her and the children which she would like paid monthly. Her haircuts and clothing alone come to a significant amount. I am happy to pay for the children but am I obliged to pay for my wife? There is no reason she couldn’t work now. She has had part-time roles frequently throughout our marriage including after we had the children. How much should I contribute to all their expenses and how do most people work this out?

Read about financial responsibilities after separation in this NZ Herald Ex-Files article.