Usually you are not talking to each other, there can be high conflict, and you are usually in court. Typically you will have been separated from the other party for three to six months. You may have an existing lawyer that you are not entirely happy with.
Often the other party will have filed family court proceedings or written a letter to that effect. There are usually, but not always, children involved. It is common to have issues involved with economic disparity and spousal maintenance.
At this stage you need more active advice and representation, on an ongoing basis – which starts with an initial consultation.